Introduction
In this module’s discussion question, the video Frederik Imbo talks about how he learned to not take things personally. The idea that resonated with me was when he said, “It would probably be easier for us if we could stop taking things so personally. That way, no one has power over us; we’re free. We’d experience more harmony and connection between us and others, and our energy could go towards positive things, instead of endlessly battling against the things that drive us crazy.” It is not always easy to let comments or words “roll off” as the saying goes. Remember the rhythm that said, “sticks and stones may hurt my bones, but words will never hurt me'”? Whoever started that was wrong!
TEDxTalks. (2020, March 4). How not take things personally? | Frederik Imbo | tedxmechelen. YouTube. Retrieved August 31, 2022, from https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LnJwH_PZXnM
Directions
In this discussion forum, I want you to discuss the following about the video “How to not take things personally.”
1. Frederik Imbo suggests that taking things personally often stems from our insecurities and assumptions. How do you think these factors influence our perception of external events or comments?
2. Imbo emphasizes the importance of separating facts from interpretations. Can you think of a time when you interpreted a situation in a way that led you to take it personally? How might your perspective have changed if you had focused solely on the facts?
3. Discuss Imbo’s analogy of “the button” and how we choose to let others affect our emotions. How can recognizing this concept help us develop resilience against taking things personally?
You should reference at least three concepts from this week’s chapter reading to support your work in this post. (I attached the powerpoints to use as a reference since you may not be able to have access to the book online). You must write in complete sentences, and your post must contain a minimum of 100 words.
Discussion Question #5 – How to avoid taking things personally
Criteria Ratings Pts
This criterion is linked to a Learning OutcomeStrategy #1: Realize it’s not about you – explain and offer examples from his talk.
12 pts
Fulfilled the requirement with support and examples.
6 pts
Failed to offer adequate support or examples
0 pts
No Marks
12 pts
This criterion is linked to a Learning OutcomeStrategy #2: Give yourself some empathy, or speak up – explain and offer examples from his talk.
12 pts
Fulfilled the requirement with support and examples.
6 pts
Failed to offer adequate support or examples
0 pts
No Marks
12 pts
This criterion is linked to a Learning OutcomeSummarize another example (article or Video) on the same topic.
12 pts
Fulfilled the requirement with support and examples.
6 pts
Failed to offer adequate support or examples
0 pts
No Marks
12 pts
This criterion is linked to a Learning OutcomeReference at least two sources to support your work
6 pts
Referenced two sources of support
3 pts
Referenced one source
0 pts
No Marks
6 pts
This criterion is linked to a Learning OutcomeReply to at least two of your classmates’ responses
8 pts
Replied to two classmates’ post
4 pts
Replied to one classmate
0 pts
No Marks
8 pts
Total Points: 50
Below is an example of how my pervious discussions were formatted.
1. Boseman speaks about the significance of purpose and the importance of embracing challenges as opportunities for growth. How do you define your purpose, and what steps are you taking to align your actions with that purpose?
Boseman’s speech highlights the significance of finding one’s purpose and embracing challenges as stepping stones. For me, that purpose is all about making a difference in healthcare through science and hands-on lab work. To make this happen, I’m committed to service, volunteering in health-focused initiatives, and continuously advancing my medical lab science education. My goal is to apply my expertise to advance mental health care. I’m passionate about the potential of rigorous scientific investigation to fuel breakthroughs and improve lives.
2. One of the central themes of the speech is the power of perseverance and resilience in the face of adversity. Can you think of a time when you had to overcome a significant obstacle? How did you stay resilient during that time?
Reflecting on perseverance and resilience in the face of adversities, I realized that one great challenge that I went through was to recover from a significant illness after I gave birth to my second and, at the same time, stand up to the calls of academic work. Indeed, my resilience was fueled by a strong support system and a personal mantra emphasizing growth through adversity, keeping me focused and determined during my recovery. This period tested my limits, but it helped to strengthen my commitment to my studies and future career as it proved that one can overcome substantial hurdles with the right mindset.
3. Reflecting on Boseman’s message of embracing one’s unique journey, how can we cultivate a sense of authenticity and stay true to ourselves in a world that often pressures conformity?
As Boseman called for, cultivating authenticity is like having an open-ended discussion with the self and unremittingly following through on those things one values and believes in, even if they are uncool. One can only aim to let his or her voice and choices be unique in an otherwise this by actively writing and practicing grass-roots activism and other activities that reflect the conformist society that really fits with our interests and beliefs. Such practice helps us be true to ourselves and inspires others to value individuality within a shared environment.
4. Boseman emphasizes the importance of using one’s platform for positive change and advocating for marginalized communities. How do you believe individuals with influence can contribute to social justice and equality?
In my view, people who hold power have a prime opportunity to love justice and
equality in society. Through this, they can challenge influential opinions and bring them into action. Spend it creating change through inclusive policies and fund organizations advocating for equity. For example, they may use their influence to popularize particular issues or their property in order to fund useful causes. In my opinion, anything that can be done should be done, and there is no reason why influential personalities should not start something on any available platform.
This Week’s Chapter Concepts
Effective Communication
I chose this because it is crucial for effectively conveying one’s purpose and addressing challenges. Without strong communication skills, even the most important messages can get lost in translation. By focusing on clarity, active listening, and adaptability in my communication style, I can ensure that my points about mental health are heard and understood. I’ve learned that it’s not just about getting my point across, but about making sure the other person truly gets it. And that means being flexible and meeting them where they’re at.
Audience Analysis
Understanding who I am speaking to allows me to tailor my messages on mental health more effectively, reaching people on a level they can understand and relate to. For example, the language and examples I use might differ significantly when speaking to teenagers versus adults or when addressing those personally affected by mental health issues versus the broader community. By considering my audience’s background, concerns, and level of existing knowledge, I can make my message more impactful and accessible. It’s kind of like trying to find common ground, you know? If I can speak their language and connect the dots for them, they’re way more likely to listen.
Persuasive Speaking
By harnessing this skill, I can better advocate for mental health, persuading others of its importance and the need for change. Effective persuasion isn’t just about convincing people of a particular point of view; it’s also about inspiring them to care deeply about an issue and feel motivated to take action. By combining compelling evidence, personal stories, and a passionate delivery, I can make a more persuasive case for why mental health deserves our attention and support. I’ve seen how powerful it can be when you share from the heart and paint a picture they can’t ignore.
